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Thanks, But No, Thanks!
by Zipora Zien

Remember when bochurim would travel for days to arrive at their yeshivos? You don't? I also don't. It was well before our time. They used to traverse the fields and forests of Europe for days on end, subsisting on the staples which their mothers lovingly packed for the journey. A safe arrival could not be announced by telephone. One waited for a letter. There was also no airmal!

Were people more patient in those days? Did they have more faith in Divine Providence? Perhaps they were, generally, but individually, people have always existed on many and various levels. Perhaps they fretted and prayed more, entreating Hashem to protect their loved ones. Perhaps it was this difficult situation and the ensuing entreaties that ensured the safety and success of their beloved sons away from home...

So where does that leave us? We carry on the tradition. We can be proud of taking up a worn volume of Dovid Hamelech's Praises and both thoughtfully and tearfully invoking the mystical formulas for protection, health or comfort. We can peruse the oft suddenly meaningful phrases and connect with Jewish experience throughout the centuries. We can imbue our consciousness with a heightened awareness of our dependence on the A-mighty.

Here's a curious tale which might awaken us to our dependence on Hashem in areas in which we tend to think we are totally independent...

A middle-aged professional was battling against the traffic and the clock to arrive at an important business appointment on time. The success of this deal was imperative. Arriving on time was paramount to clinching the deal, and a late arrival would certainly fudge it. He tapped his fingers nervously on the steering wheel as he approached the last turn to his destination. He was making good time but he'd need to find a parking spot quickly. He began a fervent prayer to Hashem:

"Please don't desert me now! I need Your help to close this deal and if I don't find a parking space soon..."

In the middle of this supplication, he turned the last corner and saw to his amazement that another driver was just vacating a nice, big comfortable spot!

"Great! Forget it, I've got the parking place I need!"

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How often do we ignore the Heavenly assistance that precedes us as we commute hastily through contemporary life? When we ask for help from Above, do we dare imagine that it will materialize? When it does, do we truly acknowledge the source of the fait accompli?

Even more important, after the fact, do we remember to praise Hashem for singling us out for attention and thank Him for His omniscient care? Who are we, anyway, that the Ribnono Shel Olom disrupt His universal and intense, minute by minute concerns to dote over whether we arrive on time, have something to drink or find a convenient parking space? The least we could do is drop a line, special delivery or slow boat, to let our Provider know that the assistance was appreciated! Sometimes we can trace a long list of circumstancs which led us to find the solutions to our problems and then we recognize that indeed, the medication was prepared long before the illness.

In Meir Wickler's new book, Zoreia Tzedokos, we find a great many examples of just such instances. It is a veritable textbook for a course of knowing Hashem in all your ways. Every turn of the author's pen points out in detail how the Creator has His `finger in every pudding.'

One needs only to open one's eyes and one is compelled to catch one's breath at the scope of His concern for the treasured flock. Who needs to know why He loves us so much when the proof of His love is so overwhelmingly evident? One should ask why we aren't racing to shower Him with love in return and running to repay every kindness and gracious act of His.

Indeed, if we would begin to acknowledge just how important we are to Hashem, despite our puniness, we could never stop praising Him for showering us with gifts. So the next time you find your wishes and petitions granted, whether it happens before or after you thought to state them, remember to Whom all of the praise is due.

He gave you life, parents, a home, teachers and classmates, neighbors and friends, health, (good or not so good), likes, the air you breathe, the vitamins in your fruit, the minerals in your vegetables, the protein in your eggs and fish; He gave you clothing, money (which YOU think is hard earned), the rays of the sun (which enter into your eyeball, actually causing you to feel great), and every cell of brain capacity for understanding or creative imagination.

You are ZERO without Him, and when you acknowledge Him, you identify with Eternity! That's how you connect to recognizing the plan in your life and the direction you should be taking. Then you can become aware that every new possibility is a love note from Hashem, Who patiently waits for you to return His Everlasting Love.

When a fellow Jew knocks on the door to ask for a pittance, know that he was sent for you to repay Hashem. When a nudnik keeps calling to remind you of a favor she's been nudging you to do for her, she is also a living love note. When you have to decide which of the ladies on the bus is more tired, older or more deserving of the seat than you, you repay His kindness. When you stand quietly in line behind others with larger loads to check out, without stealing your way forward, you are repaying for patience granted. When you hold your tongue instead of delivering that really funny quip at someone's expense, or pithy but sharp retort, no matter how apt, you are repaying the amnesty you enjoy from retribution.

We all have debts to pay in the Divine ledger. Let's get busy now discovering novel ways to use these gifts to repay our loans.

Where is a person who desires life? Let him love days for seeing the good. Then he will have no reason to say anything bad, because he will not see anything bad. He loves every single day because he uses each day to see the good in it!

If he really loves discovering good, discovering life, then he will not be looking for bad and will have no bad reports. Evil will be caught in his `good- thought trap' long before it enters his mouth, and his tongue and lips will be protected from reporting what is not true.

What could possibly be `not true?' If everything that comes from Hashem is good, then everything that happens in intrinsically good. If we interpret events as `bad,' we must be declaring that we know better than Hashem what is good. That would truly be falsehood and deceit, for not only the acts of Divine Providence which we are privileged to see and understand are part of the Great Plan for Redemption, but every little detail in all of our lives moves the clock forward to that wonderful inevitable moment.

May we witness it soon in our days, in this very month of Redemption!

 

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