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PREPARING FOR THE FUTURE
Recognizing a Normal Child

by R' Zvi Zobin

Mrs. Reuven phoned the Rov in a panic. "My daughter's teacher told me that I have to take my child for testing because when all the other children are sitting quietly waiting to make the brocha over their mid-morning sandwich, my daughter does not wait but starts eating straight away!"

"How old is your daughter?" asked the Rov.

"She is three years old," the mother replied.

The Rov burst out laughing. "There is no need to worry. That is perfectly normal behavior for a child of that age."

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Mrs. Shimon's gannenet told her that she should send her three-and-a- half-year-old boy to a neurologist because he would not sit down the whole time and sometimes he hits other boys. But Mrs. Shimon had enough experience from her other eight children to know that her child was normal.

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Mr. Levi sent his teenage boy for evaluation because the boy's tutor insisted that his writing was completely illegible and that it indicated serious learning problems. The evaluator asked the boy to write for him, first slowly and then quickly. The writing was not perfect, but it was as legible as any other boy of his age. The tutor, who was new to the job, continued to insist that the boy was learning-disabled.

Finally, the evaluator organized a meeting with the tutor and the Rosh Yeshiva. The tutor went through all the difficulties he was seeing in the boy. The evaluator explained that all the issues were well within the range of normalcy, that the boy was also of exceptional intelligence and showed how the insistence of the tutor to focus on the failings was preventing him from developing the boy's potential.

The Rosh Yeshiva and the tutor accepted the arguments, but the next day, when they spoke to the father, they reiterated their demand that the boy go for further testing.

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Mr. Yehuda brought his seven-year-old son for evaluation because someone had seen his son's writing and had commented that because it was not neat, it might indicate that the boy was suffering from severe hidden psychological problems.

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Yissachar is an intelligent 14-year-old boy. He was under- performing seriously in his studies. Evaluation showed that he is suffering from eye- convergence deficiency, which is basic to many areas of learning and behavior.

Someone suggested to Yissochor's parents that they take him for further testing before correcting the vision deficiency. The new tester found a whole range of problems and arranged an extensive (and expensive) program of remediation and therapy. The original evaluator protested to the new tester that the problems she found were normal for a person with convergence deficiency and would probably be self-correcting after the vision disorder was corrected. The tester insisted that the problems were problems and had to be dealt with individually.

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The evaluator mentioned in these stories has thirty years of experience tutoring and teaching regular students. He is, therefore, able to maintain a realistic perspective of what is `normal' and the relationship between cause and effect and how dealing with one basic problem can enable a regular person to take care of a whole range of other, consequential problems.

The `testers' and advice-givers in the above stories worked on the `checklist principle'. According to the checklist principle, each problem is accorded a list of characteristics and anyone matching a certain number of characteristics is defined as being `problematic' and needs to undergo therapy for that problem.

But a person is not simply an aggregation of behavioral modes. Every aspect of his performance is linked to every other aspect. Ideally, before entering into the field of evaluation and remediation, the trainee should have several years of experience working with regular students so as to establish a base-line of norms with which to compare the results of evaluations. The evaluator needs to be able to see beyond statistics and recognize the uniqueness of the individual before him.

 

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